If things happen according to how you wish that's good, and if it doesn't that's even better. If things are not happening according to your wish it's happening according to some divine force. Where we curse our luck and circumstances. We grow up and are put in such a comparative environment. We need to accept for a fact that success and failure is a function of hard work, risk & luck. All 3 things are needed in varying proportions. In psychology we term it as earned success & deserved failure fallacy; a tendency to underestimate the role of luck and risk and a failure to recognise that luck and risk are two sides of the same coin.